It’s all about the energy that surrounds us. There is positive and negative energy. With negativity we create limits to our life and maybe to other people’s life. With positivity you let good things, people and solutions to come into your life which makes you see things differently. I am not trying to say that you will always have good moments and everything will go as you wish. But as a positive person you never let thoughts such as worry, discouragement and pessimism take over your life.
Although there is more negativity in the world right now, you don’t have to let it affect you. Turn your attention to a more uplifting reality.
Most of the negativity is caused from people that we choose to have around us rather than the environment that we live in. E.g. you can live in a rough area but if in your household you have positive people you don’t focus on the area but on the good time that you are having. Now imagine living in a peaceful area but in your household you have negative people that always complain and bring sorrow to your life.
So here are few tips that helped me to become more positive and I hope they can help you too.
- Limit the time that you spend with them. You don’t have to stop speaking or stop seeing them, if you can’t avoid them, but at least limit the time you spend with them. People that constantly drain your energy and enthusiasm.
- Don’t let their thoughts affect you. I let sometimes negative thoughts take over me but then I stop, take a deep breath, reflect, feel grateful for where I am and let it pass by. I know it’s hard especially when you feel down, those whispers in your head telling you “you better give up” but you have to stay strong and flow above that. There is a say that goes like that: “an entire sea can’t sink a boat unless it gets inside the boat. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t sink you unless you allow it to get inside you.”
- Give yourself a break. You need space to clear your mind and put your emotions in order. Limit your exposure in people that suck out your energy and if you have to hang out with them, because they might be your colleagues where you see them every day in the office, try to do so in group so you won’t have to deal one to one.
- Point them the good side. Show them your point of view. Remind them of a bad moment they had and turned out for good. They might see that there is a good side to every story, but if they don’t, let it be.
- Move on for good. Negative people are not bad; they just have a constant alarm on worry, fear and uncertainty. But you have to move on and limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.
If you want to live your best life start being surrounded by positive people, it’s hard and painful but you have to avoid negativity. The people you let in your life should bring you joy and harmony; no sadness and anxiety.
Take action and full responsibility for your life. We don’t have to let anyone play with our feelings. We choose our emotional and behavioural response to people and circumstances of our life.
Remove negativity in order to make space for positivity. Try to see the good in the world and you will attract more good things.
Stay away from negative people; they have a problem for every solution.
The people we surround ourselves with can raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the best version of ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. No woman or man become great on their own. The people around them help to make them great.
Do not ever forget that no matter what; we all need people in our lives that raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose and challenge us to become better and better.
We all need each other.
Live Happy 